7
LICENSED CLINICIANS
60 min
SESSIONS
$150
SELF-PAY RATE
Free
15-MINUTE CALL
The Fight Under the Fight
Every couple has a dance. One reaches, pursues, criticizes, gets louder, because silence feels like abandonment. The other defends, shuts down, leaves the room, because the conflict feels like drowning. Each step makes perfect sense, and each step triggers the other's next one.
By the time couples reach us, they can recite the dance from memory and they are exhausted by it. The content changes weekly. The pattern never does.
Emotionally Focused Therapy treats the pattern, not the topics. It is built on attachment science: the fights are protests about connection, and they end when the connection question finally gets answered.
How EFT Works
First, the cycle gets mapped until both of you can see it as the enemy, instead of each other. That alone lowers the temperature in most homes.
Then the softer feelings under the hard moves get found and spoken: the fear under the criticism, the shame under the stonewalling. When one partner hears what is actually underneath, the response changes, often visibly, in the room.
Finally the new pattern gets practiced until reaching and responding become the default again. EFT is among the best-researched couples approaches in existence, with strong results that hold at follow-up.
What EFT Helps With
EFT is our deep-structure approach for relationships, and its attachment lens helps individuals too.
The same fight on repeat. Different subject, same shape, same ending, whoever starts it.
Distance & disconnection. Roommates-with-a-mortgage syndrome, before or after the fighting stops.
Trust & betrayal. Rebuilding after an affair or a long erosion, with the injury actually addressed.
Attachment wounds. Old lessons about closeness that keep steering adult relationships.
Family repair. Parent and teen, or parent and adult child, finding a way back into contact.
Anxiety & depression in relationship. When the relationship is both trigger and potential medicine.
What EFT Actually Looks Like
Slower and deeper than communication-skills coaching. Your therapist tracks the cycle live, slows the room down at the important moments, and helps each of you say the underneath thing to the other, not just about the other.
Expect some sessions to hold a single exchange, replayed until it lands differently. Those exchanges are the therapy.
It is emotional work by design, and couples routinely say the room feels safer than any conversation they have had in years.
Common Questions About EFT
An attachment-based, evidence-backed approach, developed by Dr. Sue Johnson, that changes the negative cycle between partners by working with the emotions underneath it.
It is best known for couples, and its attachment framework also guides individual and family work here.
Gottman gives you researched skills and structure for daily interaction; EFT restructures the emotional bond underneath. They complement each other, and we use both.
Come alone. Understanding your own steps in the dance changes the dance, and it is often what gets a reluctant partner in the door.
Questions About Our Services
Yes. We accept Aetna, Blue Cross Blue Shield, Cigna, DMBA, EMI, PEHP, Select Health, UMR, United Healthcare and University of Utah plans, and TRICARE is coming soon. Participation varies by clinician, so we check your plan before your first session.
Our self-pay rate is $150 for a 60 minute session, the same for every therapist on the team.
That is what the free 15 minute call is for. Tell us what has been going on and we will tell you who fits, which approach we would start with, and when that person can see you.